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A lot changes in your life when you go to university: You usually have to move to another city. You also have less time for each other because of the stress of university and your part-time job. In addition, there are lots of parties, you meet new people and build up a different environment during your studies. Studying can be a real test for a relationship. It’s not uncommon for people to drift apart and for a break-up to be on the cards. But you don’t have to give up your relationship right away. If you care about your partner and want to hold on to the relationship, don’t just sit back and watch, be proactive. These relationship tips for students will help you keep your love life going between university and your job.
Is your relationship on the rocks? Or are you afraid that your relationship won’t survive the semester abroad or everyday university life? Don’t worry! You don’t always have to go your separate ways right away. After all, there are a few things you can do to deal with impending heartbreak and relationship problems.
Time is a valuable commodity in your studies. When you’re not studying, you might be working a student job to fill the household budget. Even if you don’t see each other as often as you used to, try to stay in touch as much as possible. For example, reserve time slots to talk regularly on the phone or Skype. This way you can be part of each other’s lives, which is important for a healthy relationship.
Spend as much time together as possible. After all, what you fill your days, weekends and semester breaks with depends only on your priorities. Good time management helps you to balance everything. Experiences are important for a relationship and this has been proven: The greater the positive emotions experienced together during an excursion, holiday or adventure, the more it strengthens a relationship. So: Surprise each other and spend romantic weekends together. If the distance is too great, you can also cook together via video telephony and use the time in front of the screen creatively – but together.
It is not uncommon for studies to lead to changes. New interests, a different circle of friends and possibly a new lifestyle: all this can happen during your studies. Sometimes this can surprise and overwhelm your partner. Here, too, clarifying conversations and openness about which path each person is taking can help. However, relationships under pressure cannot work in the long run. Jealousy and prohibitions are absolutely counterproductive when it comes to love. After all, a solid relationship thrives on mutual trust, shared values and openness to the other person’s wishes.
Love means being happy for the other person, even if the situation is not beneficial for you. If your girlfriend or boyfriend gets the once-in-a-lifetime chance to get a long-awaited place at university in another city, your own interests should of course not take priority right away. The same applies to parties and holidays. If the other person has a good time, it’s nice that he or she enjoys it, isn’t it? So share your emotions with each other and exchange experiences. This is of immense importance for a relationship.
Excessive demands, pressure and stress in studies often lead to one or both of you being irritated in the relationship. But no matter what the reason: In no relationship can arguments be avoided. What is important is how you deal with it. Reflect on the fact that each of you has needs and that arguments usually arise because your own wishes are prioritised. Instead, find suitable intermediate solutions and compromises. Also: Accept the other person and don’t put everything on the scale. After all, nobody is perfect, right?
For some couples, the current relationship model is simply not the right one. This may be the case, for example, if you cannot see each other for a longer period of time – for example, because one person is abroad. For some, a long-distance relationship is inconceivable, but they don’t want to give up the relationship either. What you do with the situation is always a question of communication. Talk about it and discuss what is important to you and what the future should look like. Then decide what rules apply in your relationship. Open relationships or temporary breaks can be appealing and quite suitable for some couples. The important thing is that you both agree and that the same rules apply to everyone. If you don’t agree, you can at least be transparent about how and if the relationship should continue.
An intact relationship requires both of you to be committed to it. If you have the feeling that your boyfriend or girlfriend is no longer behind the relationship, talk openly about it. This way, important points can be clarified and possible misunderstandings can be cleared up. Often we make assumptions about how the other person thinks, but these assumptions do not correspond to reality at all.
No degree lasts forever. Joint plans for the time after the Bachelor’s or Master’s degree are like glue for a relationship. Discuss what you want to do after university. It doesn’t matter if you want to move in together or are planning a trip after graduation: With a set goal in your partnership, it’s easy to bridge the time until you finish your studies. This makes it much easier for you to keep up your self-motivation during your studies. And true love can overcome most challenges, right?
